Weeks of falling!

It feels like it has been months since I have posted anything here. Could be because our life with Harry has been so overwhelming. Outbursts, depression, sadness and hopelessness. Not a lot has made him smile lately, I miss his laugh.
School work has been suffering, his friendships are tough and home life is stressful and full of opposition.

But today I had a break through!
After talking with another mom today about some problems she's been facing with her child. I got some wonderful insight into how to help Harry with a new perspective. She told me of some conversations she had had with her little guy and how something in him just clicked one day. It really got me thinking in how I talk to Harry, what expectations I verbally tell him. It gave me some hope to keep going and not give up.

I came home today and thought hard about how to help Harry with his schooling. We talked about school and what he likes. I also like to keep it positive and easy flowing. But today I thought I would best ask him why he doesn't like it? What would you make different about school? what would make it fun?
It turns out that fun is the word that school is lacking! He thinks "its boring and that its all work work work that's to hard, and no toys and no playing!" Said Harry.
He then asked if he could do school at home? Mommy "I want to do home school!" That statement alone, opened up a response that would help both him and me.

I told him that, I didn't think that would be possible. When I have tried helping you in the past, you don't want to listen or learn, you don't follow my direction and it always ends in tears when we try and just do homework! I know that seems a little blunt and some what harsh, but you don't want to beat around the bush when you are really trying to make a point that will somewhat serve as a wake up call.

It did the trick, he said straight away, "mommy I really want to try, I'll listen and do my work!" Great, lets do it! I didn't waste anytime, I thought if he is going to say it, then he needs to back it up with actions. So I gathered some work books and off we went to his bedroom, to work at his desk. It worked It worked!!!! OMG who was this boy? He sat at his desk, he wrote his name, he listened to instructions, he completed work and he enjoyed it!!!